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This week on T for the Table, Tony and Terrell are turning the mirror around and having an uncomfortable but necessary conversation about accountability, emotional maturity, and the roles we play in our own relationship drama.
Can you be a good person and still be somebody else's villain? Are we really protecting our peace, or just avoiding accountability? And what happens when the common denominator in all your failed relationships might actually be YOU?
We're talking toxic traits, weaponized therapy language, unresolved trauma, and the difference between being self-aware and actually changing your behavior.
Because sometimes healing isn't about what somebody did to you. It's about recognizing what you've done to somebody else.
The real question is: If the people from your past told their side of the story, would you recognize yourself?
Pull up. Pour up. Let's talk! 🥂
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There's a difference between keeping your business private and making somebody else your dirty little secret!
This week, Tony and Terrell are getting into the DL conversation. From hidden relationships and the appeal of masculine, discreet men to the fine line between privacy and dishonesty, we're asking the questions people don't always want to answer.
Can you love someone who isn't out? Is being DL a red flag? And are some of us more attracted to the secrecy than the actual man?
Because coming out is a personal journey, but honesty in relationships should never be optional.
🍷 Pull up. Pour up. Let's talk!
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New job. New city. New relationship. Same problems. 👀
In Episode 208 of T for the Table, Tony and Terrell ask: Are we addicted to starting over?
We’re unpacking the excitement of reinvention, “protecting your peace” versus avoiding accountability, and why consistency can feel harder than another fresh start. Because baby, a new environment doesn’t automatically mean a new YOU.
When is it time to leave, and when is it time to face yourself?
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I Know Better… But
The chemistry is good. The situation? A whole mess. 👀
Tony and Terrell get into exes, coworkers, friend-group crushes, and the hookups you already know could end badly. Why does off-limits feel so tempting—and how long can good sex make you overlook the chaos?
Plus, “Confess or Pass” brings some revealing questions to the table. No judgment… well, maybe a little.
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Every friend group has one—the glue, the truth-teller, the wildcard, the lover… but which one are YOU?
Using Living Single, Girlfriends, Insecure, Sex and the City, and Noah’s Arc as our jumping-off point, we’re talking friendship roles, growing apart, jealousy, relationships, and what happens when the version of you your friends expect no longer fits.
Can friendships survive different life stages? Can you outgrow someone and still love them? And do your friends love you—or the role you’ve always played for them?
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What does love cost these days?
Tony and Terrell are joined by singer/songwriter Dominic Patrick for The Anatomy of Love, a conversation inspired by his latest project, Love Inflation.
From sacrifice and compromise to peace, passion, consistency, and choosing yourself—we’re asking what healthy love should cost and what it should never cost you.
After everything we’ve experienced… is love still worth the price?
Pull up. Pour up. Let’s talk. 🍷
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In Episode 4, “But Are You Actually Attracted to Him?”, Tony and Terrell unpack desire, physical attraction, chemistry, preferences, and the people we choose. From body types, masculinity, and gay beauty standards to unavailable partners, unresolved wounds, and the thrill of the chase, the conversation asks whether our attractions are truly ours—or shaped by culture, validation, and other people’s approval.
Can chemistry be misleading? Do attractive people get away with more? And if your exact physical type keeps breaking your heart…when do you question the type?
Pull up. Pour up. Let’s talk, because fine has never been enough.

Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. Sometimes it’s feeling misunderstood, carrying the weight of being the strong friend, or being surrounded by people who don’t truly know you.
In this episode, Tony and Terrell explore romantic, friendship, family, career, spiritual, and Black queer loneliness. They also discuss the difference between being needed and being known, and what it takes to find people who genuinely pour back into you.
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We’re always encouraged to heal—but who actually gets to experience the version of us that emerges afterward?
In Season 2, Episode 2 of T for the Table, we’re unpacking the complicated question: Who gets the healed version of us?
Do the people who loved us through our unhealed seasons deserve access to who we’ve become? Should someone new benefit from lessons another person helped us learn? And what happens when healing changes us so much that the relationships we once fought for no longer fit?
We’re talking about accountability, second chances, boundaries, emotional growth, and why healing doesn’t always bring people back together. Sometimes it shows us why we needed to let go.
Who gets the healed version of you?
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We’re baaaaack—and the table is officially open for Season 2! 🥂
In our season premiere, we’re catching up on life during the break, sharing what we’re leaving behind, what we’re bringing into this new season, and what has us excited—and a little nervous—about what’s ahead.
We’re also giving you a taste of what we’re bringing to the table this season: honest conversations, relationships, pop culture, Black queer perspectives, therapy moments, special guests, listener questions, Tony Tidbits, and the debut of Terrell’s Blerd Corner.
Whether you’ve been rocking with us since Season 1 or you’re joining us for the first time, we’re happy you’re here. Pull up a chair—there’s always room for one more seat at our table.
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